Couples Counseling on Big Island
You love each other, and you know, something isn't working. Conversations turn into the same arguments, emotional distance grows, and it’s harder to feel close or understood. It doesn't matter how hard you try, it still feels the same.
Couples counseling offers a supportive space to slow things down, understand the patterns beneath the conflict, rebuild trust, and create a relationship that feels safer and more connected.
I provide affirming, inclusive couples counseling for all relationship styles, including LGBTQ+, polyamorous, open, and non-traditional partnerships on the Big Island and throughout Hawaiʻi.
When your relationship feels stuck, disconnected, or caught in the same painful cycles — you don’t have to figure it out alone.
and across Hawai‘i
How Relationship Struggles Often Show Up
Even strong relationships can get stuck. Over time, unspoken needs, old wounds, stress, and survival patterns can quietly shape how you relate to each other. It can leave you feeling disconnected, frustrated, or unsure how to move forward.
For some couples, this shows up as constant conflict. For others, it looks like distance, silence, infidelity or feeling more like roommates than partners. These patterns are common and they’re changeable.
You might recognize some of this
Conversations that turn into the same arguments (or get avoided altogether)
Feeling emotionally distant, disconnected, or misunderstood
Struggling to rebuild trust after hurt, betrayal, or broken promises
Intimacy and romance feeling strained or far away
Feeling stuck in patterns of resentment or shutdown
Questioning the future of the relationship
Often, relationship struggles aren’t just about the relationship. Anxiety, fear of rejection, overthinking, or emotional shutdown can quietly shape how partners respond to each other — especially during conflict.
This is why my couples work is trauma-informed and nervous-system aware. When anxiety is part of the picture for one or both partners, individual support can also be a powerful complement to couples counseling.
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How Relationships Can Start to Feel Different
Couples counseling isn't about blaming, fixing, or choosing sides.
It’s about understanding the patterns that keep pulling you apart — and learning how to turn toward each other instead of away.
Change doesn’t happen overnight. But even small shifts can bring real relief and help your relationship start to feel safer, calmer, and more connected.
Feeling more connected and supported in your relationship
Communicating more openly without constant arguments or shutdowns
Rebuilding trust and intimacy after distance, betrayal, or conflict
Breaking out of the same painful patterns that keep repeating
Feeling like teammates again instead of opponents or roommates
Creating a relationship that feels intentional, safe, and lasting
My Approach to Couples Counseling
In my work providing couples counseling on Big Island and across Hawaiʻi, my first priority is creating a space where both partners feel safe enough to be honest. Not just polite, not just calm — but real. My goal is to create an environment where difficult conversations can happen without harm, and where each person feels seen, even when things are hard.
Relationship change doesn’t happen through techniques alone. It happens as each partner begins to understand their own patterns, reactions, and needs — and learns how past experiences shape present responses. As that self-awareness grows, the relationship starts to shift too.
Safety for Both Partners
A supportive space where both people feel respected, heard, and able to show up; even during hard conversations.
Honest Communication
Conversations that move beyond defensiveness or shutdown and help you speak and listen in ways that land.
Personal Patterns
Relational Change
Understanding how your own history, trauma, and coping strategies shape how you respond in the relationship.
Working with how you interact in real time, helping you notice patterns as they show up and respond differently together.
It’s possible to feel closer, communicate more clearly, and stop feeling like you’re fighting the same battle over and over.
Couples counseling isn’t about fixing who’s “wrong." It’s about understanding what’s happening between you and learning how to respond differently, together.
No matter what your relationship looks like right now, you don’t have to navigate it alone. Support is here and real change is possible when both people feel safe, heard, and respected.